South African graduate balances motherhood and study to achieve childhood dream
Nelisiwe Shabalala, from Johannesburg, is graduating today with a degree in Sociology, having balanced the demands of university life with motherhood and caring responsibilities as a mature international student.
Nelisiwe Shabalala is graduating today with a degree in Sociology from Queen’s University Belfast, a milestone reached through determination and hard work, paired with a deep understanding of the importance of education.
Originally from Johannesburg, South Africa, Nelisiwe returned to education as a mature student and single mother caring for her son, who has a learning disability.
As she explains:
“Driven by my love of learning and a desire to build a better future, I took a leap of faith. Balancing motherhood and study was never easy, but I reminded myself daily why I was doing it – for a rewarding career and to set an example for my son. I was motivated by the fact that every late night study session and life difficulty pushed me closer to my childhood dream.”
However, Nelisiwe’s learning journey was not always straightforward but when things were tough, with support from the Student Support Services in the School of Social Sciences, Education and Social Work, the Disability and Wellbeing Service at the Students' Union, and her lecturers, she gained confidence and found her stride.
A highlight of her final year was completing her dissertation, which was described by her tutor as a “real achievement.” It was a moment of pride for Nelisiwe, who based the project on her own lived experience, exploring how background and income affect how young people with learning disabilities in Northern Ireland feel about the quality of public services like healthcare.
Nelisiwe describes how much it meant to her:
“It meant so much because the topic was close to my heart. I think that’s what made me finish on such a high because I worked on a project that spoke specifically to my lived experience as a mature student with caring responsibilities. I’m incredibly thankful for the support I had throughout the process.”
Like many mature students, time management became one of her most important tools. Nelisiwe developed a structured schedule to balance study time with caring for her son.
As she describes:
“There were sleepless nights and moments of self-doubt. But once I embraced the support available and learned not to be afraid to ask for help, I started to grow – not just as a student, but as a person.”
For other parents, mature learners or international students wondering if university is possible, Nelisiwe offers simple encouragement:
“With effort, resilience and support, it is absolutely achievable. Even the small steps move you forward.”
Now looking to the future, Nelisiwe is excited about new opportunities – whether in further study, community work or career progression.
She reflects:
“I’m proud of how far I’ve come. This is only the beginning.”
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